“If you forgive others their transgressions, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you do not forgive others, neither will your Father forgive your transgressions.”Matthew 6:14–15
Peace and good to all.
If I may share my thoughts on the above quoted Bible passage.
The above verse is in addition to the verse about the Lord’s Prayer when Jesus taught His disciples on how to pray, by teaching them what we refer to now as “The Lord’s Prayer.”
The above verse as you can see put emphasis on forgiveness, particularly on forgiving others who have wronged us. It put emphasis on Jesus teaching that it is only when we forgive others of their sins or of their wrongdoings against us, that our Father in heaven will be able to forgive us for the sins that we have committed.
For most of us, to forgive is indeed very hard to do, especially if the pain is still there and, most. especially, if the person who wronged us and who caused our pain, has never acknowledge his/her wrongdoings nor ask for forgiveness from us.
To forgive is a choice. It belongs to our human will. But to forgive wholeheartedly without conditions is a gift from God. Many times we are tormented with the situation of saying that “ok, I have forgiven this person of all the pains he caused me,” but you know deep inside the forgiveness is not complete because you still feel bad about that person. There were times we are guilty of saying this: “to forgive, yes I have forgiven you, but I will not forget what you did and the pain you caused me.” This is not forgiveness at all, my friends. But we know we are guilty of having said these things in the past, one way or the other.
This is because forgiveness is first of all, an act of our human will, but to go beyond that, like erasing all the sins committed by the person who wronged us, it is as if no sin has he committed against us, is already a gift from God, which we all need to pray and ask God for it. Because if forgiving will remain only in the act of our human will and will not penetrate our hearts, then there is no forgiveness at all. And, we do not want this to happen to us when we ask God’s forgiveness for our own sins. Would we want to hear God saying, “Ok my child, you are forgiven, but I will not forget what you have done”, therefore, you will not enter my Kingdom.
Thus, when we forgive others and our hearts do not follow instantaneously, let’s pray for that. Let’s pray and ask God that we may be able to forgive this person who wronged us not only in our minds but also in our hearts. Keep on praying about it. Let’s pray and ask God for Him to tame our hearts in order for us to learn to forgive; that He gives us the gift of understanding so that we may be able to understand the reasons for all the hurt and pain. We can also stop focussing on the pain and the hurt that happened to us and change the way we think about the person who hurt us and, therefore, pray to God to help him/her so that he/she would not be able to hurt others and, therefore, hurt himself/herself too in the process. We cannot change that person, but God can.
Lastly, let not bitterness and hate overcome us. Let’s fight that feeling of hate and anger by forgiving those who caused them. It’s not easy, I know. But with Jesus with us, nothing is hard. Jesus will lift all these anger and hatred in our hearts in order to free us from all the burdens they impose on our hearts.